Category Archives: Predictions

Postpartum Pro-tip

Buy some new sheets that you think are really beautiful and keep them on the bed as much as possible…








Because it’s not going to get made very often… and you might as well enjoy looking at it.


Reflection: What will be different for my children?

Reverb11’s December 2nd prompt is a neat one to me, since I am pregnant. I imagine my answer would be different if I were not, and probably more different still if my child were born already, or a teenager, or an adult already.

December 2: My Children Will Do it Differently

If you could choose one thing that your children will do or experience in a different way than you have, what would it be and why?

Photo (c) NCinDC via Flickr

I like the knowledge that, assuming we continue to live in Washington, DC – or if we ever relocate, it’s to another great city – my child(ren) will grow up surrounded by diversity of people and ideas. It’s not that I think that growing up as I did, in small, mostly white, Midwestern towns, is bad at all, I don’t. But I know that when, at 28, I came to Washington DC, and walked through neighborhoods of row houses, corner markets, parks, saw city buses and bicycle commuters, and homeless people, heard the sounds of different dialects of Spanish and other languages being spoken around me… I felt like I’d come to a place at once wildly different and somehow also very familiar. It took me a while to figure out why it was familiar. Then I realized: Sesame Street. Though I’d grown up in small towns, from my earliest memory I’d also been at home in a television world that very much resembled neighborhoods in my new city home. I love that my child(ren) will grow up experiencing the rhythms of this city. And one day, when they move to a farm and rave about the peace and open spaces, or to a small town with wide, quiet streets and lawns that need mown and watered, I will smile and love that they’ve discovered their own sense of place. Because isn’t that how it goes?

Boy or Girl: Old Wives Tales

Thanks to this fun site, I learned a number of new ways to predict Red Bean’s gender. I present the following fascinating old wives tales (all pasted from the belllybelly site) and my answers:

Linea Nigra

Latin for ‘black line’, a linea nigra may appear on your belly during pregnancy (some women wont get it – doesn’t mean anything!). This is a purple/brownish line which extends down the middle of your belly to your pubic area, about 1cm in width. It’s known that hormones cause the linea nigra pigmentation, but it’s not known why it forms in the vertical line that it does. The old wives tale is this – if you get a línea nigra and it runs from your pubic area to your belly button only, it’s a girl, and if it goes all the way up from your pubic area to the bottom-most part of you rib cage, then it’s a boy.

Don’t have one. No help there.

Carrying High or Low?

This is a well known old wives tale – so many people will want to look at your belly and think they can guess just from looking! So as the tale goes, if you are carrying low, it’s a boy, or if you’re carrying high it’s a girl. We wont tell them that the way the baby is carried is actually a reflection of your own body shape, muscle, baby’s position and other physical factors!

Too soon to tell I think.

Dry or Soft?

If your skin is dry, you’re said to be having a boy – and if it’s soft, then a girl is on the way.

Noticeably drier. One for boy.

What’s Baby’s Heartrate?

First, to set the record straight, until it’s born, your baby’s heartrate will not be affected by it’s gender. But so they say, if you’re carrying a girl, then baby’s heartrate will be above 140bpm (beats per minute). A boy is said to have a heart rate under 140bpm. A study published in the Journal of Reproductive Medicine (1996) has dismissed this theory, as has other research. Your baby’s heart rate will change often during a pregnancy, depending on the baby’s age and it’s movement. Anything from 120-160bpm is normal for an unborn baby.

Red Bean’s heart rate was 144 bpm. Point for girl but quite borderline.

Your Flowing Locks

Has your hair become thinner and dull? Or full-bodied and glossy? Thin and dull says girl, gorgeous and glossy says a boy.

Growing fast and shiny – though it’s too danged hot in DC to enjoy it. Point boy.

Ahhh, Now I Know Why We Learn Maths At School!

Because if you combine your age at the time of conception with the number of the month you conceived and the resulting number is odd – then it’s a girl on the way. If the resulting number is even, then it’s a boy for you.

Age 34 plus 3 for month of March = 37. Point for girl.

Sweet, Salty or Sour?

Another well known old wives tale!!! Are you craving sweet foods like juice, fruits and chocolate? if so, old wives say that you could be having a girl. But if you’re craving sour or salty foods, then you could be having a boy. It’s also said that if you are having a boy, you will crave protein like meat and dairy. I have trouble believing this one because I think we’d be overrun by a population of females – we all love chocolate pregnant or not!

In spite of my manicurist saying sour meant girl, this seems to indicate sour/salty means boy. The meat and dairy craving is through the roof – it’s protein city over here. No word on craving spicy… but I think, point boy.

Morning Sickness?

Did you experience morning sickness in early pregnancy? If you did, then you’re said to be carrying a girl, but if you didn’t have morning sickness, then it’s a boy.

Mild quease and insane tiredness, but no morning sickness – nada. Point for boy (and whatever was behind that, thanks!)

Cold Feet?

If your feet get colder than they used to pre-pregnancy, it’s a sign you have a boy on the way. If your feet are the same, then it’s a girl!

Totally the same. Point for girl.

How Do You Look?

Do you look better than ever while pregnant? Or has the pregnancy done your looks no favours? As it goes, if you look great during pregnancy, then you are carrying a boy. If you don’t look too flash, you’re having a girl, because she’s stolen all your good looks!

I feel and (I think) look great. In fact, I love being pregnant. If anyone who sees me disagrees… keep it to your damn self. Point boy.

North or South?

When you sleep, is your pillow north or south? If it’s north, then expect a boy, or south means a girl is on the way.

If my bed were a bus, I’d be on 16th Street headed to Silver Spring. For those of you who don’t know DC geography, that’s due north. Point boy.

Pimples, Schmiples…

If you get acne during pregnancy, apparently you’re having a girl, and if you don’t, then you’re carrying a boy.

None to speak of, so thanks again and point boy.

Hairy Legs?

Has the hair on your legs grown faster than normal? Or has it grown just like normal? Because if it’s growing faster than it did pre-pregnancy, then you’re said to be having a boy.

Yes, growing faster. Buy stock in Gillette and buy me a blue baby gift.

The tally: 8 Old Waves Tales say boy. 3 Old Wives Tales say girl. Predictions include the manicurist’s mistaken interpretation of sweet/sour thus claiming it’s a girl and my mom’s prediction of girl against a friend’s dream that our baby is a boy. Whatever it is, I’m gonna snuggle the dickens out of it.

I may have changed demographics…

The last time (before yesterday) I got a Free Gift with an order, it was those little disposable toothbrushes with a dab of toothpaste on them that you can drop in your purse and use if you sense a sudden need to brush your teeth – like, if you get lucky and someone wants to make out with you at the club, or like if you were pigging out with friends at Terry’s Garlic and Curry Emporium and realized you had a dentist appointment across town in ten minutes…


The real last time I got a Free Gift was yesterday. My order of a maternity skirt and a cute maternity blouse came in yesterday. In the package, a free gift: Nuk Ultra-dry Disposable Breast Pads. I think there are six in there, to get me started, to get me hooked. It’s like a little message from the cosmos: no more clubbing and garlic-infused dental runs for you, missy. Your boobs are gonna dripping everywhere soon.

Wanna vote?


Red Bean: boy-child or girl-child?survey software


If born in 2011, our munchkin will be a Rabbit. This bodes well.